Addiction. It’s something you never thought would enter your life, but it has. It’s manifested itself in your child and you’re terrified.
You’ve watched your child suffer. You’ve watched their life – relationships, goals, career, health – deteriorate. You agonize that their next binge or fix could be their last.
You know your child’s life depends on them getting help, but they refuse to go to rehab. You feel paralyzed, scared, hopeless. If your child refuses help, you wonder, what can you do?
Dealing with Denial: How to Help a Drug Addict Recover
As a parent of an addict, you exhaust every avenue and resource to help your child quit abusing and get better. When your child refuses help, it can seem like you’ve hit a devastating dead-end.
Nevertheless, there are still ways you can guide your child toward recovery. The following three steps take a no-nonsense approach to helping your child get support and recover.
Draw a Hard Line in the Sand
Understandably, you’ll do anything for your child. But, when it comes to their continued addiction and refusal to get help, there is no room for bribing, incentivizing and bargaining.
Your child is ruled by their addiction, which weakens their ability to reason and make sound decisions. At this point, they probably see your negotiations and consequences as empty threats.
You must begin to show your child that their actions have serious consequences and you will not enable their addictive habits anymore. Draw a hard line in the sand and if your child crosses it, you must follow through.
- If you tell your child, “The next time you use, I’m not lending you money for food, gas or entertainment anymore,” follow through and place your wallet in a spot where they will not find it.
- If you tell your child, “The next time you use, I’m not letting you borrow the car anymore,” follow through and place the keys in a spot where they will not find them.
Consistency is key. As consequences grow in intensity, the impact becomes more substantial, such as telling your child they cannot live under your roof anymore.
Organize an Intervention
If you’ve tried hard and fast boundaries, followed through and your child is still not coming around, consider organizing an intervention. It’s important to note that not everyone responds favorably to interventions, so they must be strategically executed.
Some of the most effective interventions involve hiring a professional who is well-versed in planning and running these types of events. Hiring an outside expert also adds neutrality to a very emotional and sensitive situation. Emotions and adrenaline tend to run high during interventions, and a neutral host will know the best way to start, moderate and conclude the event.
During an intervention, the host can present to your child the various types of treatment options available to them. The host can also work to remove the stigma around going to rehab. It could be that your child never knew the breadth of treatment routes they could take, or they’re hung up on the shame or disgrace that society can place on rehab individuals, and that’s why they’re refusing help.
Remove Support Altogether
The mere thought of walking away when your child needs you the most is excruciating as a parent. But when you’re all out of options, sometimes the best way to provide support is to remove support altogether.
For most parents, this means removing them from the home and stopping all forms of communication with their child.
Walking away doesn’t have to be a goodbye forever. Let your child know that when they are ready to get help and recover, you will be there for them and help them through the process night and day. You never know, this could be the exact thing your child needs to wake up and realize it’s time to get help.
Treatment for Addiction at Ranch Creek Recovery
Ultimately, an addict’s recovery must start with them recognizing they have a problem and wanting to get better. Rest assured, no one is beyond recovery. At Ranch Creek Recovery, your child can stop the cycle and start the journey toward recovery. Learn more about us and our luxury treatment center, including our holistic non 12-Step approach to rehab, and the addiction treatments that we offer.